[Given the ways she thinks that Celehar thinks of her (and the ways she is and isn't wrong about that), it isn't surprising that it would be something she values, and yet finds unexpected.]

'Tis the losing things in parts that makes it easier, and yet more difficult all at once.

[He casts a sidelong glance at her.]

It makes it all the more difficult to say how it changes us. Or if we do. It seems to me that the paths we walk in our emotions are well-tread enough that it is not so easy to leave the patterns. Like wagon ruts on a trail.